She is now a widow and the single mother of 5 children, Deshaune, 20, Octavia, 18, Rodrigo, 16, Tatiyana, 13, and Marcos, 5. Natasha De Alencar was married to fallen soldier, Sgt. Mark R. De Alencar, for 15 years. Her husband was killed in Afghanistan on April 8 during a firefight with Islamic State Fighters. He was a member of the 7th Special Forces Group.
Natasha recounted the day when two Army men came to her house to tell her that her husband had been killed in action. “I’ll never forget those super-white, clean gloves, or the expressionless look on their faces,” she told The Washington Post. “My husband was truly one of those people who would give you the shirt off of his back and he would look out for you before himself.” She also said.
Two days later, Natasha returned to her home after making T-shirts and pillowcases in her husband’s memory. An Army casualty assistance officer told her there was someone on the phone for her. It was the president. She put her phone on speaker and with all of her children, they waited on hold for about 15 minutes. Then President Trump began to speak, and Natasha’s daughter recorded the conversation on her phone.
President Trump began by saying how sorry he is about the “whole situation,” and then he said that De Alencar’s husband was “an unbelievable hero.”
Natasha said about the conversation, “At that moment when my world was upside down, and me and my kids didn’t know which way we were going, it felt like I was talking to just another regular human,” De Alencar said.
President Trump invited De Alencar to visit him at the White House, “If you’re around Washington, you come over and see me in the Oval Office.” Trump then began asking about Natasha’s children. He knew that Deshaun was playing college football at Missouri Valley College in Marshall, Mo. The proud mother told the president that he was attending there on a scholarship. Trump asked if it was an academic or sports scholarship. Natasha said that it was an academic scholarship.
The president told Natasha to make sure she said hello to all of her children for him and to “tell them their father was a great hero that I respected.” The phone call ended with Trump reiterating his invitation to visit the White House, and he asked Natasha to take care of herself.
“It was a moment of niceness that we needed because we were going through hell,” De Alencar said.
The Washington Post has now contacted 13 Gold Star families for a larger story about Trump’s relationship with the families of fallen soldiers. Seven of the thirteen families have received phone calls from President Trump.
You can listen to the conversation below. We look forward to seeing your comments.
Credit: Washington Post